Many times in life will call for reflection but, few are more powerful than when you become a parent. The desire to do right by your child is a heavy responsibility. Though rife with uncertainty, the few things I am confident about are ten of the parenting tips I learned from my parents.
1 Mistakes Make Winners
I have made plenty of mistakes in various aspects of my life. As the dust settled after each, the sting of the mistake was replaced with enlightenment. The hard learned lessons are the most powerful, teaching us more than any book or course on the subject ever could. You did it, admit it and work to fix it. My parents have helped me learn success is a mindset. Viewing mistakes as wins masquerading as failures. The prize won came in the form of the knowledge I gained.
2 Discipline and Determination
The value and satisfaction obtained from something is directly related to the time and energy sacrificed to achieve it. The correct way to accomplish a goal may take longer, but the investment of your discipline and determination will be worth what you gain at the end.
3 Accept All Education
Be curious, ask questions, seek clarification and understanding in all things, always. Take classes, read books, devour information provided by experts in any field of interest.
4 Honesty Helps (Even When Brutal)
Be honest and forthright with information, opinions and feelings, especially with yourself. Fear that honesty may hurt feelings or spur rejection, is counterproductive. Dishonesty is the true betrayal. Being called out about something forces us to acknowledge and change it, which in result makes us better.
5 Parent, Not Friend
Parents should love, support and rally for your ally. Just don’t make them your friend. The parental relationship is in itself a special bond.
6 Appreciate Each Day
The one life we live consists of days that once over, we will get back. Play with your kids, give hugs, be present. Children live in the moment so be there with them, as often as you can. Embrace each phase, even the hard ones because time seems to move quicker through the eyes of a parent.
Give selflessly of yourself and show others empathy. Give what you can to the needy, help the less fortunate and feed the hungry. Be the example you want your children to learn.
8 Be Self-Sufficient
Doing things or fixing problems is a disservice kids pay for later in life. Set boundaries, enforce rules, and deliver consequences. Looking to children as a reflection of themselves causes parents to hinder opportunities for growth. Failing a test, doing their own projects and accepting they will get upset with you (and get over it) are valuable lessons needed in the real world. Holding your child accountable will better prepare them to handle situations on their own in the future.
9 Sit And Listen
Give them your full attention. Listen to them and ask how they feel about things. Self-worth is gained when a child feels important enough to be heard.
10 Family First
Place importance on family above all else. Show respect. Eat, read, play, celebrate, whatever it is, do it together. Make traditions and memories together.